It all started when I broke my cardinal packing rule, AKA the Noah’s Ark Edict of 2013.
In preparing for world travel, I only allowed myself two of everything – two pairs of pants, two t-shirts, two long sleeved shirts, two bras, and so on.
The only areas in which I let myself splurge were with underwear and shoes.
I’ve never been as stylish as I’d like to be. I’m not one of those women that can walk into a store, grab three pieces off three separate racks, and emerge from the dressing room looking like the lovechild of Audrey Hepburn and Jackie O.
Maybe it’s because while I greatly admire fashion and the fashionable, I just can’t be bothered to make the effort. I’d much rather sleep in than spend time putting myself together each morning. I’d much rather take a bicycle ride than go shopping.
Or maybe it’s because anything that looks dynamite on a 5’11”, 110-pound fashion model always manages to make me look like I’m wearing a Robin Hood costume. That, or Mr. Potato Head.
Whatever it is, I wasn’t blessed with an innate sense of style.
Unless you’re talking about shoes.
I speak the language of shoes the way other women speak French. I can look at a pair and instantly know if the heel is the right size, if the curve of the arch is tall enough, if the color is a bit too camel-toned.
I could probably pick out a fantastic pair of shoes just by feeling them with my eyes closed.
So when it came time for my great exercise in minimalism, it was easy to give up the fabulous leather jacket I’d never wear during springtime in Southeast Asia, and the cocktail dress that would be painfully out of place in Nepal.
But my shoes? How could I possibly narrow them down to just two pairs?
Nearly 6 months later, none of the four pairs of shoes that made it into my bag that fateful November day are with me any longer. They’ve perished, dissolved into the mist of world travel, sacrificed to unseen nomadic gods.
As the proud owner of only one pair of shoes at this moment in time, I thought it would be fitting to eulogize my fallen comrades, seeing that they’ve carried me some 7,000 miles around the globe and back again.
Shoelogy – Remembering those shoes no longer with us
1. DSW Boots
Beloved reminders of Los Angeles, devoted protector of lower legs, eclectic chameleons for any season
I don’t even remember the designer (see? So not a fashioinista!), but I bought these fantastic over-the-knee leather boots right before I left for Nepal, and refused to leave them behind.
Then I arrived in Nepal, and the sheer fabulousness of these boots seemed to scream “MY FOOTWEAR COULD BUY AND SELL YOU ALL THREE TIMES OVER!”
They were embarrassing, inappropriate. When it came time to leave Nepal for the 85° weather of Southeast Asia, I simply left them in my Kathmandu hotel room.
I hoped the guy who worked at the front desk would give them to his sister or his girlfriend.
It felt so good to be rid of them, like an enormous weight was lifted.
2. Super Cute Chinese Laundry Flats
Humble servants, queens of comfort, examples of that elusive, true beauty to which we all aspire
Yes, they were sort of ballet flats, which I realize is so-five-years-ago but I didn’t care.
They were patent leather in a shade of pink so pale, so understated that it was like wearing an 18th century Geisha on my feet.
During the great boot sacrifice of New Year’s Eve, 2013, I closed the door to my hotel room, thought better of it, opened the door again and unpacked my bag.
I placed one flat inside the left boot, the other inside the right boot.
That way, whoever inherited the boots would be gifted with a little something extra, like being given a new car only to be told “that’s not all – look what’s on the passenger seat.” (In my gift-of-car fantasy there’s always a diamond ring on the passenger seat.)
3. Really Comfortable Hipsterish Brown Sneakers from Sketchers
Champions of long walks, climbers of many mountains, supportive confidantes
I did everything in these sneakers. Hiked the Himalayas. Trekked through the mountains in Northern Laos. Went jogging along the oceanfront in Vietnam.
They were getting old, and kind of smelly, and rather than stink up my hotel room at night I’d leave them outside my door. I was staying in my dear friend’s guest house, and thought it highly unlikely that anyone would want to steal my smelly old sneakers.
Until I woke up one morning and they were gone.
“Mr. Ba!” I said. “Where are my sneakers?”
After a few phone calls and much discussion, it turned out that one of the new staff members threw them in the garbage when he was cleaning my room.
That was the turning point, the moment that lead me to…
4. One Single, Solitary Pair of Flip Flops
Beach lovers, protectors from dirty bathroom floors, whimsical scamps on a mission
And then the ocean ate my flip flops.
It was nighttime, and the moonlight tide swirled in all around me, soaking my clothes and gulping up my remaining pair of shoes. (But it wasn’t my fault – I was justifiably distracted when it happened.)
For a few hours of my life, I was completely and utterly shoeless.
I was then gifted with a new pair of flip flops to replace the ones gobbled up by the sea, and I’ve yet to add another pair to my collection.
I sort of don’t want to.
After all, in Southeast Asia one can perform most required tasks while wearing flip flops, including riding a motor bike, doing construction work, exercising, and working in the rice fields.
Plus, I sort of like having one pair of shoes. World travel has highlighted the importance of traveling light, sure, but it’s more than that.
I used to have this terror of letting go – like if I didn’t own enough shoes, or enough pairs of jeans, I wouldn’t exist. I wouldn’t know who I was. I wouldn’t be seen. Ownership gave me an identity, a relationship to the world around me.
“I am Rebekah and those are my jeans, my laptop, my flip flops.”
When you’re sitting on the beach with the ocean sparkling beneath the moonlight and the taste of salt on your skin, you realize that the world has so much more to give you than shoes (or clothes, or a new car, or really good knives).
You realize that instead of making you feel more important, more secure, more together, the shoes have been blocking the moon from your view.
Of course, my shoelessness is infinitely different than many people’s shoelessness, because I can go out and buy another pair whenever I want. That’s not the case in many parts of the planet, as world travel to places like Nepal and Cambodia has been quick to reveal.
While I can’t promise I’ll be a one-shoe wonder forever, for right now it is the thing that is keeping me grounded, and the thing that’s teaching me who I really am – sans baggage, sans fear, sans desire to acquire more and more and more stuff, just for stuff’s sake.
Minimalism is addicting, like getting a tattoo. If it feels this good to own one pair of shoes, imagine how I’ll feel with one shirt? One pair of pants? One pair of underwear?!
Okay, maybe not one pair of underwear, but you get the idea.
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1. Accidentally owning a single pair of shoes has been the most spiritually fulfilling part of world travel thus far.
2. A Shoelogy is a eugoly for all the shoes you’ve lost during your travels. Don’t forget that it’s important to grieve.
3. Outfits that look good on fashion models make me look like Robin Hood.
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